You might be inadvertently making your life more difficult because of one simple behavior.

Our social structures are based on punishment, and this is the major obstacle for why you don't change.

Avoiding punishment is the less effective internal driver. Sure, we don't want pain, suffering, loss, grief, discomfort - no one really does. But, our brains are wired to want reward even more than it wants to avoid punishment.

This is why punishing yourself for failures just turns into a vicious cycle with no correction.

I'm going to show you how to control this response and change it to relieve some of the burden of everyday life.

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Why Every Day Is A Little Bit Harder

There are people who understand depression and anxiety on a personal level and there are people who understand depression and anxiety on a medical level. There are relatively few people who understand both, and I’m one of them. As a clinical psychologist I have a doctorate degree and thousands of hours of professional experience providing treatment for mood and anxiety disorders. I also have 39 years of personal experience managing mood and anxiety disorders as I myself deal with these struggles. This podcast is my attempt to synthesize my personal knowledge with my professional knowledge. Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/scott-eilers/support

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Society expects everyone to fit into predetermined molds, but that's not realistic. There is no "normal" path meant for everyone.

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0:00 - The Person I Want To Be Doesn't Exist
2:15 - Searching for a Path That Fits
5:28 - The Delusion of a Secret Society 
8:40 - Accepting There Is No Preset Path
11:25 - Finding Peace in My Uniqueness
14:10 - Crafting a Customized Life
17:35 - Embracing Your Distinctive Identity

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The Person I Want To Be Doesn’t Exist

There's an epidemic of unhelpful responses when someone opens up about their struggles. My take: Most well-meaning people inadvertently make things worse because they simply don't know what to say.


When we see loved ones suffering, it triggers distress in us too. Our instinct is to quickly make their pain go away, for our sake as much as theirs. But rushing them through emotions or invalidating their fexelings creates isolation.


I want to look at four common unhelpful responses, and give you some new tools to use. These tools also apply to your self-talk - be your own supportive friend.

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iOS 
https://apps.apple.com/il/app/mood-bloom-therapeutic-game/id6449717065?mt=8
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Disclaimer: This content is not intended to be a replacement for receiving treatment. It is purely educational in nature. My relationship with you is that of presenter and audience, not therapist and client. 

But I do care.

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4 things you should never say to someone who is struggling (and what to say instead)

People with depression often feel like they aren't very smart - I hear this all the time in therapy sessions. 
But the usually the opposite is true. And there are a few very interesting reasons for that.

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My book: For When Everything is Burning
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Mood Bloom games for depression and anxiety (I have partnered with this brand): 
iOS 
https://apps.apple.com/il/app/mood-bloom-therapeutic-game/id6449717065?mt=8
Android
https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=hedonia.bloom.mood&hl;=en_US&gl;=US&pli;=1

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Disclaimer: This content is not intended to be a replacement for receiving treatment. It is purely educational in nature. My relationship with you is that of presenter and audience, not therapist and client. 

But I do care.

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Why Smarter People Are More Depressed

Stress and anxiety can feel almost identical, even though they are two very different things. When it comes to improving your mental health, know which one you're dealing is pretty important.

I'm going to show you how to determine whether what you're feeling is stress or anxiety, and then give you some practical things you can do today to help each.

Get Practical tools for navigating life with depression and anxiety, delivered weekly.
https://mailchi.mp/90ccaf44c876/self-hope-psychology

My book: For When Everything is Burning
https://bit.ly/forwheneverythingisburning 

Mood Bloom games for depression and anxiety (I have partnered with this brand): 
iOS 
https://apps.apple.com/il/app/mood-bloom-therapeutic-game/id6449717065?mt=8
Android
https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=hedonia.bloom.mood&hl;=en_US&gl;=US&pli;=1

Connect with me on TikTok:
https://www.tiktok.com/@dr.scott.eilers

Therapy with me (Iowa residents only)
http://www.northstarpsychcenter.com/

Work with me (Non-Iowa residents)
http://www.drscotteilers.com/

Disclaimer: This content is not intended to be a replacement for receiving treatment. It is purely educational in nature. My relationship with you is that of presenter and audience, not therapist and client. 

But I do care.

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6 Things I stopped doing to better manage my stress

Life is completely overwhelming a large portion of the time.

From all the things you have to do, to the things you need to do, and add in the things you want to do, and they're just no realistic way to get it all done.

Now, instead of allowing that to shut you down and turn to avoidance, I'm going to show you how to turn it into action that helps you ease your stress.

Get Practical tools for navigating life with depression and anxiety, delivered weekly.
https://mailchi.mp/90ccaf44c876/self-hope-psychology

My book: For When Everything is Burning
https://bit.ly/forwheneverythingisburning 

Organize your day around your mental health goals with Sunsama
https://bit.ly/DrScottSunsama (affiliate link)

The app I use to learn core principles from thousands of nonfiction books in minutes
http://shortform.com/drscott (affiliate link)

Mood Bloom games for depression and anxiety (I have partnered with this brand): 
iOS 
https://apps.apple.com/il/app/mood-bloom-therapeutic-game/id6449717065?mt=8
Android
https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=hedonia.bloom.mood&hl;=en_US&gl;=US&pli;=1

Connect with me on TikTok:
https://www.tiktok.com/@dr.scott.eilers

Therapy with me (Iowa residents only)
http://www.northstarpsychcenter.com/

Work with me (Non-Iowa residents)
http://www.drscotteilers.com/

Disclaimer: This content is not intended to be a replacement for receiving treatment. It is purely educational in nature. My relationship with you is that of presenter and audience, not therapist and client. 

But I do care.

--- 

Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/scott-eilers/support

Why Every Day Is A Little Bit Harder

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